Hello

Hi Doc,

Thought I stop by and wish all of your followers and your family, I am not sure about you though, a very happy new year.

For me it will get worse, last year things progressed, this year maybe I will forget all and have no resentments because I cannnt remember ther.

God Bless & Keep You,
joe

Lack of reality leads to a reality check

Over the last few weeks have had these thoughts that if my father (dad has dementia/alzheimers) passed away before my mother that we might be able to bring my mother home to live with us, finish out our basement, etc. I understand that this is just the hope-full part of me that wants to hang on to some thought of renewal or future. But then reality of my mother's condition hits me square in the face. We attempted to take my mother out to eat with all of her grandchildren this past week. The plan was to take her out of the memory care facility, go to lunch, come back and then visit with my dad. But, my mother threw a fit, and could not understand why we could not also take my dad. I told my mom that we could not because of his dementia/behavior. She then flatly denied that my father had dementia or alzheimers. Mom basically has lost touch with reality. The LCSW that works with us has been telling me all along that mom's reality checking or degree of reality contact is just not there. Unfortunately it is true. That combined with her history of RX drug addiction, personality issues, depression and anxiety, will most likely make it impossible for her to ever live alone again. It's just a sad reality. My mother might not have dementia but in many ways she is just as sick as my father.

So, that is the story of how my mother (who I love so) has lost touch with reality and at the same time given her son a reality check.